Monday Night Thoughts by Brother John

Lately in our bible study time, i have given the option to my core student leaders to teach on any topic as long as they can back it up scripturally. Yes i preapprove thier main scriptures before i set them off. But anyways, they have been coming up with topics like being who God made u to be, lust, relationships/ and deeper relationship with Christ, anger and such. all really great subjects, but last monday we were talking about forgiveness and the importance of forgiving others so that we may be forgiven. This was a very interesting discussion. then it got real tricky,and so real that we were faced with a real life delema that is truely hard to forgive someone.
Come to find out two of the young men we mentor both had thier parents violently taken from them at a young age.Emotions were becoming to run high because of the rawness from the enitial wounds that hadnt been fully heald yet. But the main question that was posed to these young gentlemen, that by the way love Christ with all thier hearts, have they been able to forgive those responsible for the deaths of thier parents? They both really struggled with their answers but were honest. One said that for a long time he harbored a hate and agrudge, almost wanting revenge. but eventually he came to realize that he had to forgive them no matter how hard it is in the flesh. young man number two was even more forthcoming with responding that although he is a believer, that the loss of his parent has left him number one very tragic tragic felling, and two a feeling of guilt because he at this piont hasnt been able to forgive who ever it was that was responsible for his parents death.
the room wich is normally filled with alow background noise of chatter was silent as we talked about these vey issues. so in Gods' word it says that to be forgiven u must forgive others who have sins against u or that u hold a grudge on. this is clear.
so here is my question?
is this young mans sins been forgiven yet, or has his not being able to forgive whoever it may be yet in his way of true forgiveness?

This is one i am battling on because as i said this young man truely has excepted Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. Isnt Christs death and this young mans love for Christ enough?

Personally i feel that this is just another thing that he has to work on just like anyone else with addctions, anger issues, trust issues, and such. We all were taken freely by God when we accepted that His son died for our sins. He has taken us where we were at and is bringing us on a journey to where he wants us to be.
this how i understand the process of following the narrow road to heaven is. Constant progress in the areas that we fall short in, we all have whether we want to admit them or not.

What do u think?